What is Somatic Sex Education/Sexological Bodywork?
"Sexological Bodyworkers are Somatic Sex Educators supporting individuals, couples to learn to direct their own erotic development, learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, or work through sexual issues or concerns. We offer experiential learning opportunities that consciously access profound ecstatic and erotic states. Our teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including coaching in breath, sound, movement, body-awareness, boundary-setting, communication, sexual anatomy, sensate focus, massage, states of erotic trance. Our scope of practice includes genital and anal touch for education, healing and pleasure. We touch in ways that assist students in developing presence within the body, opening interior awareness, and learning how the body can feel more and more alive". ~ Caffyn Jesse
"The experiential learning opportunities available through Somatic Sex Education can help you engage in a respectful dialogue with your autonomic nervous system, so that physical and emotional processes that usually happen to us can be held in mindful awareness, and transformed. Love and fear, excitement and relaxation, arousal and happiness, reverence and bliss all have biochemical and physiological components that can be regulated, with training and conscious practice over time.
We all set limits on the quantity and quality of pleasure we can embody. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honor and celebrate erotic energy. Sexual wounding becomes embedded in the body's tissues and responses. Somatic Sex Education can assist you in expanding the pleasure that is possible". ~ Caffyn Jesse
means discovering choice and finding your voice
One of the experiential realms that Sexological Bodyworkers introduce to our students is a state of arousal that is free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural limitations and habitual sexual behaviors.
In a nutshell, Somatic Sex Education is:
an educational approach to learning about your body and its capabilities
a compassionate approach to somatic healing in your sexuality and relationships
using body-based therapeutic techniques that allow you to explore quickly and efficiently your sexual stories, blocks, pleasure and desires
an approach that teaches you how to fully inhabit your body that gives you permission to love yourself, exactly the way you are
a collaborative endeavor between client and practitioner
are teachers who gently lead clients through the labyrinth of sexuality to places of healing and greater pleasure
work at core body-based awareness level
have exceptional presence and mindfulness
offer loving kindness and unconditional acceptance
can help you to transform your relationships, your sexuality and your pleasure
Some of the Reasons People Come To See Me:
A safe place to speak openly about the most intimate details of your sexual life
Expressing yourself authentically and dis-covering who you are as an erotic being
Accessing and understanding deeply held stories and messages within your body
Loss or lack of sexual desire
Practice establishing, communicating and negotiation boundaries
Learning to love yourself again after sexual abuse or trauma
Healing from sexual trauma or traumatic child birth
Healing sexual or erectile concerns and learning ejaculation control
Scar tissue remediation - help for scars from abdominal or genital surgery
Learning the anatomy of arousal, becoming a better lover
Prostate education and health
Walking the path of sacred sexuality
Awakening to mindful sexuality - practicing giving and receiving, asking for and granting permission for touch
Exploring new ways of being sexual in a safe environment, including anal pleasure, power and surrender, and bold sensation
Nurture, Deepen and Awaken the Sensual Self
"With somatic sex education, women who are shut down sexually come alive, and experience bliss. Couples reignite passion and overcome obstacles to erotic joy. Men who are dissatisfied with ordinary sex learn to master the extraordinary. People who have experienced sexual abuse find their wholeness as erotic beings. Many students say they are astonished at the pleasure they are capable of, and they are thrilled at how easy it becomes. I have seen marriages saved, orgasmic states savored, shame released, and people opening to new dimensions of ecstatic experience, making sex profound and sacred.
Many people feel wounded sexually - by trauma, heartbreak, unmet needs or unshared secrets. Something inside us yearns for healing and wholeness. There are many therapists and self-help strategies. But the problem is, sexual healing doesn't come from the mind. Sexual healing happens in the body. Sexual healing comes from experiencing love and acceptance physically, viscerally, and with the heart." ~ Caffyn Jesse
There are many reasons we may go along with a sexual scenario that does not serve us, whether it be societal, low self-esteem, a feeling of "duty" or "obligation". Saying "yes" when the body is saying "no" can lead to unfulfilling sexual relationships, building resentment and incurring sexual trauma, even within a loving partnership. This is a very deep and personal conversation that your body may be having with you, based on valid past experiences.
Through Somatic Sex Education you can achieve:
Understanding of the deeply held stories and messages of your body
Acceptance of who you are and where you are as perfect for you at this time and place
Authentic expression of all you discover about yourself as an erotic being
Using communication, breath, movement and touch, we can start to unravel the stories of the body, finding the joy and pleasure that is our natural state. Choosing mindful sexuality means learning how to ask for, give, receive, and take your pleasure. This means, between consenting adults...anything is possible! I can help you discover choice, and find your voice.